Category Archives: Adoption

The Know Betters & Do Betters of Racial Micro-aggressions #1: “Where Are You From?”

The Know Betters & Do Betters of Racial Micro-aggressions #1: “Where Are You From?”

I’m starting a new series. The working title was originally something like, “Seriously! What is Wrong With Me? How Can I Be Such An Ass? I’m a Thinking Human Being Who Parents Haitian Children. There is Simply No Excuse! Do Better, Paula! Do Better! I’m Ashamed of Me!” Too wordy? How about just The Know Betters &Continue Reading

Why Do You Hate Adoption? And Other Adoption FAQs

Why Do You Hate Adoption? And Other Adoption FAQs

I’ve received some very specific, pointed questions about my stances on adoption lately. It’s no surprise. Now that my children are older and I have been steeped in some aspect of adoption as an adoptive parent since the year 2000 (and my whole life as the daughter of a birth-mother), both my opinions and my writingContinue Reading

On My Mom, The Sex She Had, and The Adoption She Didn’t Plan

On My Mom, The Sex She Had, and The Adoption She Didn’t Plan

She wanted the sex. It was 1959. My mother worked for an aeronautics firm in San Diego, California. It would be easy to paint the affair she was having with her co-worker as workplace harassment. Maybe it was. She was a female. He was a male. That was all that was required to create a power differential inContinue Reading

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