Category Archives: Adoption

How to be a Good Friend to a Parent of a Child Who Has Been Through Trauma

How to be a Good Friend to a Parent of a Child Who Has Been Through Trauma

Chances are good that you know a person parenting a child who has been through tremendous or ongoing trauma (You can read SAMHSA’s “Types of Trauma” here). Perhaps your delightful playdate pal becomes embroiled in a nasty divorce and you discover their relationship was fraught with abuse. Maybe your favorite “ladies night out” girlfriend adopts aContinue Reading

14 Reasons Why This Adoptive Parent is not a Fan of the Drop Box Hype

14 Reasons Why This Adoptive Parent is not a Fan of the Drop Box Hype

The Drop Box film has enjoyed substative popularity in the United States. As a mother of transracially adopted children, I have been asked frequently what I thought of the movie and the idea. Each question is clearly punctuated by a resounding sigh full of positivity and tearful bubble hearts. I have not seen the movie. IContinue Reading

See That Obviously Adoptive Family at the Mall You Want to Compliment? Read This First.

See That Obviously Adoptive Family at the Mall You Want to Compliment? Read This First.

The holidays can be emotionally loaded for anyone. They are often especially confusing and challenging for adopted children and adults who were adopted. When my family is out and about around the holidays, we often get the head-cocked, lips pressed together in a slight smile, starry-eyed stare that says the very sight of our transracial family has givenContinue Reading

Seemingly Minor Mistakes White Adoptive Parents of Children of Color Often Make

Seemingly Minor Mistakes White Adoptive Parents of Children of Color Often Make

All white parents adopting children of color should know of the big, damaging mistakes we stand to make: not moving to an area where our children will see people that mirror them daily (an adoptee’s experience) not having close friends who mirror our children (an adoptee’s experience) not celebrating and integrating important components of our children’s race and culture (an adoptee’s view) not supporting ourContinue Reading

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