Category Archives: Working it Out

Talking Alton and Philando With My Newly Driving Black Teen

Talking Alton and Philando With My Newly Driving Black Teen

Most mornings, my teen daughter, adopted from Haiti, wakes up and does two things: she reads the world news on her phone and asks me if I can take her out driving that day. She is obsessed with both. Yesterday, she emerged from her room and said nothing. After a long snuggle session, less common inContinue Reading

Medical Marijuana Manages My Chronic Illness (And Makes Me A Better Mom) [Scary Mommy]

Medical Marijuana Manages My Chronic Illness (And Makes Me A Better Mom) [Scary Mommy]

I started using weed to control the chronic pain from my rheumatoid arthritis (RA) after the night I scared the living hell out of my kids. “Sprinkle Butt!” I repeatedly called out to my youngest daughter, my lips puckered in exaggeration. “Come here and give Mommy a big kiss, Sprinkle Butt!” I’m told I also screamed obscenities at theContinue Reading

On The Trend to Demonize Mother’s Day

On The Trend to Demonize Mother’s Day

Every year at this time, blog posts and news reports appear begging mothers to consider all the people for whom Mother’s Day might not be a pleasant holiday. The growing trend is to request that mothers yield the day to those who have experienced loss. I have been a motherless child. I spent over two decades estrangedContinue Reading

The Hardest Resolution I’ve Ever Made: Stop Parenting From Fear

The Hardest Resolution I’ve Ever Made: Stop Parenting From Fear

Resolutions! Lose weight. Write a book. Read long, classic novels. Volunteer somewhere. Noble and righteous, good-person, headline-making resolutions. I long for them, these trendy resolutions full of moxie with their accompanying hashtags and meet-up groups. Join us each Sunday at the bay, the profile says We’ll spend a half hour cleaning the shoreline and thenContinue Reading

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