Category Archives: Parenting After Trauma (Child)

Top 20 Things I Wish I Had Known About Adoption Before I Adopted

Top 20 Things I Wish I Had Known About Adoption Before I Adopted

Note: A version of this post appeared in Scary Mommy. The changes between that post and this one reflect my growing awareness of adoption over the years. I have placed an asterisk before the pieces of advice that contain changes.   I recently cobbled together a list of wisdom and advice I wish I had gotten prior to forming aContinue Reading

Family Day, Part III: After

Family Day, Part III: After

July 30, 2003 We did not sleep our first night as parents.  I watched the children militantly, monitoring their breath, their heartbeat, their temperature.  I was their mother, their co-mother, the other mother in their lives. The thought continued to circle around me, enveloping me like the humidity. We ate white watermelon, toast, and eggs for breakfast.Continue Reading

Family Day, Part II: During

Family Day, Part II: During

Update (11/6/14): This three part series chronicles the 3 day anniversary of bringing our children home from Haiti. We will now call each day “Family Day”. We used to call it “Adoption Day”, a name I thought far more respectful and far less creepy and evocative of human trafficking than “Gotcha’ Day”. After further reflection, though,Continue Reading

Family Day, Part I: Before

Family Day, Part I: Before

Update (11/6/14): This three part series chronicles the 3 day anniversary of bringing our children home from Haiti. We will now call each day “Family Day”. We used to call it “Adoption Day”, a name I thought far more respectful and far less creepy and evocative of human trafficking than “Gotcha’ Day”. After further reflection, though,Continue Reading

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